Thursday, August 25, 2016

Staying Positive in a Cyber World

One of my main focuses lately has been creating classes and teaching people how to develop and use their intuition. One of the main struggles however, is getting past the noise and chaos in the world. People spend hours every day scrolling through and trolling social media, posting, commenting on other people’s posts, reading the massive amount of information coming through their new feeds. And in times like this, especially during a political year, the information can be very hateful and negative. How do we keep from getting swept away? 

I believe that if one truly wants to start living a more spiritual and fulfilling life, they must first figure out how to be happy and stay positive. You need to learn how to navigate this fast and furious information age gracefully. Here are a few don’ts and do’s to help you get a grip on the cyber world and remain sane. These are things I have learned, sometimes the hard way, since I discovered social media.

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.

I am referring to “sharing” posts. There are many, many images appearing to be factual information flying around the internet, especially now. But before you hit that share button, stop and think:

Is it true? It only takes a few seconds to find out. If it’s not, don’t share it. Stop spreading false information. 
Is it nice? If not, why do it? Don’t do it. After all, what goes around really does come around.
Will it put a smile on someone’s face? If not, why share it? And on the flip side, if it is joyful and will put a smile on someone else’s face, share away. Otherwise, resist the urge to hit that button. 

Will it make a difference in someone’s life or change their mind to your way of thinking? It most likely will not, especially if it’s negative, so why go there?

Creating Drama

How often do you take to social media to share bad news or complain about something or someone? Do you air your dirty laundry about your family? Do you call someone out who you are feuding with? Do you post vague comments that are intended only to garner sympathy? Now ask yourself, does that really help anything? Yeah, you might get a few sympathetic comments, you might even get a few people offering to “have your back”, but does it really help or change anything? Do you enjoy being known as a debby downer or a chronic complainer? Even if you have a few close friends who always take your side, how many of them actually roll their eyes at yet another battle being waged? It might surprise you.

 All of this does nothing except keep you in a state of negativity, and spreads it around to others. It kills your joy, your happiness and it makes you unable to truly be thankful for the things you do have in your life. When you live in this state of constant turmoil, you create more turmoil for yourself and eventually you will no longer be able to see the good around you. That is very sad. 

Sharing mean, hateful or disrespectful pictures.

You know the ones. Pictures like the ones referred to as “the people of Walmart” or just random pictures that people snap of random strangers they deem to be inappropriate and worthy of being made fun of. First ask yourself, who are you to deem anyone else as inappropriate or worthy of ridicule? Remember that these are real people and the internet is a fast and furious machine aimed at sharing everything at lightening speed across the entire globe. Put yourself in their place for a minute, because the truth is, that picture might end up in their news feed before too long. What if it were you? What if it were your child, sibling, or even a parent? How would you feel? It doesn’t matter if you would never go out dressed like that or do something stupid like that in public. That does not give you license to make fun of someone else, period! Again, what goes around does eventually come around.

So how do we stay happy and sane?

What can we do? What can create happiness, fill you with gratefulness and keep your energy clear so that you can live a more spiritual and fulfilling life?

Post inspiring messages.
Sometimes we all need a little something to lift us up and keep our eyes focused on what is good in the world.

Share inspiring stories of love and courage.

We all love a hero. Even on your worse day, it’s hard to not feel better when we see or read about good things going on in the world.

Marc Gold - 100 Friends Project

Share cute and funny pictures and videos of kids and pets.

It’s pretty hard not to smile when you see an adorable baby or an animal doing something silly. You know what they say, laughter is the best medicine.

Follow inspirational people.

Be inspired by them to go out and do good in the world, and let them inspire you to be someone others want to follow.

Nick Vujicic, author Life Without Limbs

Post something nice on someone else’s timeline. 

Make random posts of kindness and encouragement to brighten another person’s day. One last time.. What goes around comes around. It works both ways. :) 

Be authentic with your words and your comments.

Don’t get caught up in the virtual world playing make believe. Own who you are. Be happy with where you are. Share it.. 
Be quiet.

You don’t have to comment on everything you read. If you find yourself being bothered by a friend’s constant negativity, unfollow them. Eliminate the negativity from your daily view. It really is that simple.

Wean yourself from social media.

Go out into nature, read a book, spend time with your friends and family without the constant interruption of your phone or computer. Put on some great music and dance. Volunteer for a cause you feel passionately about. Laugh often, smile always and love one another with all your heart. Remember there is a real world out there full of wonderful and amazing things. Don’t get caught up in cyber space. Most of it is not real.

Monday, June 27, 2016

Signs From Our Loved Ones

Signs From Our Loved Ones – Ways that try to let us know they are still with us and ok

Often after a loved one passes, they want to be close and let us know that they are ok. They give us signs such as a dream, a familiar smell or even a song.. Sometimes we are so caught up in our grief that we don’t notice these signs. When we do, we sometimes we wonder if it’s just wishful thinking.  But sometimes they give us signs that we simply cannot write off as coincidence or wishful thinking. Once you recognize these messages for what they are, you will no longer wonder; you will know because they will be clear and usually come through just when we need them.

Signs from our loved ones are usually personal and very significant. The key is to pay attention to repetitive signs. Watch for and be open to meaningful occurrences and communication from beyond the physical.

Following are a few of the ways that our loved ones try to communicate with us. If you have ever experienced any of these and wondered, wonder no longer. It’s very likely you have received a sign from Heaven.


Often our loved ones come to us in our dreams. It’s one of the easiest ways for them to make themselves known to us. One way to tell that this is an actual visitation is that the dream will be incredibly vivid and real.  It will stay with you in detail when you wake up, and for days and years later. At first you may feel sadness due to the loss, but as you recognize these dreams as actual visits they will become very peaceful and soothing. 

It’s easier for us to receive visits through our dreams because our minds are not distracted by daily activity, and we are not as caught up in our grief. Also our vibration can rise when we sleep because our subconscious is less cluttered with external stimuli.

People often tell me that they don’t dream, even though they want to. They ask for their loved ones to come through in a dream, but don’t remember anything upon awakening. I believe that we all dream and we all receive visits from our loved ones, we just need to set up the situation to remember it. As you fall asleep at night, you can ask our loved ones to visit, and they often will. The key is to set an intention so that you will remember the dream. Be prepared with a journal and pen on your nightstand to write down anything you remember upon awakening. The more you do this, the more open and receptive you will be and that will make it easier to remember more and more of your dreams. 

Scents & Smells

Another easy for our loved ones to let us know that they are close is through our sense of smell. Our sense of smell is closely connected to our memories. They will send a unique odor that you will immediately associate with them. There will be no logical explanation of where the odor is coming from. It might be their favorite perfume, the smell of a pipe or cigarettes, a fresh baked apple pie or fresh bread. Sometimes the smell lasts only a moment, just long enough to get our attention. Other times it will linger and bring us a sense of closeness and peace.


Have you ever been driving down the road, or working in your office or home, and suddenly something will make you think of your loved one? Then a song comes on that was “your song” or “their song” or the words of the song clearly represent something about your loved one. It’s perfect timing, or is it?

We know they are around when their favorite songs come on at the right time with the exact words we need to hear. Often the same song is played in many different places throughout the day or over the next several days.  The song, coupled with the memory, is their way of letting us know that they are here with us. 

Thoughts and Feelings

Have you ever, just out of the blue, felt a presence like you were not alone?  Maybe it feels familiar, or in some way brings a sense of peace and love. When our loved ones are close, their love for us can often be felt.

Our loved ones can also put thoughts in our mind. You may get an image or think you heard a voice, and all of it just sort of pops into your head out of nowhere. That is our love one trying to let you know they are around.

I am putting these 2 things together because they are often signs that accompany one another. It’s easy to see why.  The thought of someone you love often brings up feelings of love and how they made us feel when they were still with us.

Other ways you might feel their presence is actually feeling them. You might feel a hand on your shoulder or a brush against your hair. It’s ever so slight, but you know, because of the feeling that gives you, that it really is your loved one there with you. 
Unexpected Gifts

Spirit often has a way of gifting us by putting something in your path. But remember, it’s not always a human loved one who will do this.

I have a close friend who lost her beloved dog in a very tragic way. She was left feeling deeply sad, depressed and very angry, and she was finding it very hard to bring herself out of this dark place. Within a couple of weeks a small, older and very frail dog stray dog wandered into her life, and her home.  Her intention was to help the old girl with food and vet care, and then find someone to foster or adopt her. As she went through the process of getting medical care for this dog, and began contacting various pet helper organizations, she began to wonder if her dog had sent this precious gift to help her through her sadness and to help heal her heart. Needless to say, the helpless, sick old dog found her forever home when she walked into my friend’s yard, and is now a very happy and healthy member of a family who loves and cherishes her.

Other gifts from spirit might be as simple as a coin or feather. Whatever it is, if it catches your eye and makes you wonder, it most likely is a gift from your loved one.

Misplaced or Moved Items
Sometimes when your loved one comes to visit, they want to let you know in a more physical way. They might move a picture, or your glasses; they may knock a book off the nightstand, or move a piece of jewelry. At first you might scratch your head or maybe think you’re losing your mind. If you brush it off, they may step the game up. Eventually you start to put the pieces together, and as you do the occurrences will slow down or stop all together. They have accomplished their goal, to let you know they are around you.


Sometimes we will see the same numbers over and over again. You will wake up at the same time every night, or something will catch your attention and you look at the clock or your watch and again, the same time. You might see the numbers on a license plate on the car in front of you, or even on a street sign or in the grocery store as an advertised price.

Our loved ones will show us numbers to let you know that they are around. They may show us important numbers that represent an anniversary or a birthday, so some other significant date. A lot of people put meaning to repeating master numbers (as in numerology) like 11, 22 or 33. If certain number resonates with you, then it very well may be your loved one letting you know that they are around. They show us the same numbers over and over to reinforce their presence


Electricity is one of the easiest things for spirit to manipulate. Our loved one can easily flicker lights, turn on the tv or radio, mess around with your computer or cell phone. Because they are now energy, it’s easy for them to tape into energy. Most times, this is just a way for your loved one to let you know that they are around. 


Do you believe in coincidence? Our loved ones may sometimes set up situations where things just keep happening and you begin to wonder if it’s more than chance or coincidence. Maybe they are trying to lead you into a new opportunity, a new job. Perhaps they are trying to help you get out of a bad relationship or meet new friends.

Not too long ago I was seriously thinking about leaving a job that was really dragging me down. I had worked in the industry for years, but things were changing and not in a good way.  I kept feeling that things just were not right, I would see things that didn’t align with my values, but I wasn’t sure that I could afford to just walk away. Jobs in my field were very hard to find and I was felt lucky that I had found this one. However, things were happening that kept making me feel more and more uncomfortable. I was looking for a sign to help me decide. Then all of a sudden I saw a video from someone I respected that spoke of how spirit will sometimes force you into negative or unpleasant circumstances to get you to see that you are in the wrong place. She specifically talked about how spirit will set up situations that will keep pushing you until you leave a job you don’t belong in, in order open up new opportunities for you. I saw 2 or 3 more references pretty much saying the same thing all within the next few hours, and then I got an email from a lady that I had done some work for the year prior, asking me if I was available to resume the work I had done for her, and take on more, in a field that I do love and allows me to help others in a positive way. I call that a quality sign. My decision was made and I quit my job. I do absolutely feel like all of these events were set up by Spirit trying to guide me to a life that would be more fulfilling and allow me the flexibility to do more of my spiritual work.

Perhaps you are wondering about changing jobs.. then you run across this post. Is it a sign?  Probably!  However it doesn’t have to be a job per se. If you are trying to make a difficult decision, ask for a sign. I am a firm believer that if you ask, you will receive exactly what you need.

Just remember, the same sort of synchronicity can occur in any area of your life such as love, travel or even getting a new car. Your loved ones can set up a situation where you meet someone just when you need to, help you stumble across circumstances that open up the opportunity for a vacation where you didn’t think there was one.. all sorts of things..   The key is recognizing the signs.


Even if you have never had a psychic experience, it is possible for our loved ones to appear to us. Most times it’s very brief like seeing someone in a mirror standing behind you, or even seeing them stand right in front of you.  You might wake up in the middle of the night and see your loved one sitting beside you on the bed and you wonder if you’re dreaming. You aren’t. You do not have to be a psychic or medium for your loved ones to show themselves to you.

A lot of times, the vision comes to you in your mind’s eye, which is how most mediums see spirit. It seems like a visual thought, but actually it’s your loved one appearing to you. It may feel like a memory, or you may feel like you are losing your mind or just imagining it. The key to knowing for sure is when the vision is accompanied with a full out feeling of their presence, and is so vivid you cannot deny the experience. When this happens, you will know that it is your loved one.

Indirect Messages

Although your loved one can no longer speak to you, they are very able to communicate with you. Sometimes you may actually hear your name being called, or a warning message like “stop”, but more often it comes as an indirect message.
Have you ever been driving a little too fast? All of a sudden you see something that makes you realize that you need to slow down. It may be a bird that flies directly in front of your car, or an animal about to jump onto the road. Sometimes these are messages meant to keep you out of harm’s way.

After my father died, I started receiving emails. At first I didn’t put it together, as I thought it was just spam mail. But all of a sudden I was receiving daily emails from a cigar company. Cigars? Then after a couple of weeks I realized it was my dad. He was known for 3 things.. his cowboy hat, his cadillac and mostly, his cigars. Once I realized it was him, and told him so, the emails stopped. Then I would only get one occasionally when I was stressed or struggling with something. It’s his way of telling me to stop and breathe. 

Babies and Pets
Both young children and animals can see and sense spirit. If you walk into the nursery and see your baby looking at something that you cannot see, maybe even reacting in some way, the likelihood that he/she is being visited by a loved one is very high. Or if your dog suddenly jumps up and barks at empty space, or begins getting excited and wagging her tail at nothing, or your cat is watching something that it appears only he can see.. again, they may be seeing or sensing your loved your who has come for a visit.

Another way that your loved ones can communicate with you is through animals, birds and even insects. If they are not getting their message across, they will sometimes take drastic measures. I remember once my sister called because she had a cardinal that continually pecked at the window in her massage therapy room. It had been doing this for days, about the same time every day. I told her to look up what cardinal represents and see how the message fit in her life at that time. When she did, the message was clear and the bird stopped pecking at her window.

Now that being said, it’s not always a warning message when they send animals, birds and/or insects to you. Sometimes it’s simply a representation of who they were. Perhaps they loved birds.. you may receive feathers, or a certain bird might always appear just when you need encouragement. The same goes with any object that you might associate with your loved one, like coins, flowers or even rocks.

And so... These are just a few of the ways spirit can communicate with us. If you have had an experience, please feel free to share your stories with us! 

Friday, May 27, 2016

In Our Response Lies Our Growth and Our Freedom

Being a psychic, and having done a LOT of readings, especially regarding relationships, I cannot tell you how many times I have repeated the following words … “You cannot control what another person does. You only have control over how you respond to it.” 

This does not have to be a spouse or partner. It can be a friend, a parent, a child even, who feels the need to control the relationship and will do so with emotional and/or verbal abuse. It may be a co-worker who intimidates or manipulates a situation to their own benefit, throwing others under the proverbial bus.  It can be a boss who berates his employees daily, keeping them in constant fear of losing their jobs, while taking credit for everything they do.  Sometimes it is as simple as a friend who takes advantage of our generosity, constantly zapping our energy without giving anything in return.  

All of these things we tend to take internally, and it ends up eating us up inside. Letting these things keep hold of us will steal our joy and happiness, our peace of mind, and even our health. 

Sometimes we choose to stay in relationships where the other person makes us feel worthless yet keeps us by instilling the idea that we couldn’t survive without them. And we stay because we often feel we can change them.. Sadly we cannot. Or worse, we believe them. 

Women especially seem to have a tendency to be unable to let things go when someone does something hurtful to them or someone they love. It’s almost like an instinct to want to fix it, change it, or try and put a stop to it. However, there are many times when we just cannot, and the more we try, the more we hurt ourselves. If someone is determined to be mean, hateful or cruel, nothing you can do will change them.. No amount of begging, crying, pleading, bargaining or threatening will change a person who does not see a problem with his or her actions. 

Here are a few tips to help you move past these toxic people; or if you can’t move past them, (i.e. spouse, parent or child), at least live more peacefully with them. 

        Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control over what you do have power over instead of craving control over what you don’t.

Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” You give consent when you allow the behavior to continue. 

It is often said that life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it.  When someone consistently treats you badly, you simply need to walk away. It is not worth your time, energy and especially your health to allow this person to take up residence in your mind and your heart. 

I believe that well known holocaust survivor Viktor E. Frankl is the best example of this.. He said “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.  In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”  During his time in the concentration camps Frankl came to understand and accept that “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” 

I realize that sometimes that is easier said than done, especially when you are dealing with a close family member, a spouse or friend. However, walking away is rather simple. Do not engage, do not react, and do not let the situation bring you to a complete halt. Walk away and know that this is a reflection of the other person, and really does not have anything to do with you, unless you allow it to.  Challenge yourself to be the change. 

Typically people who feel the need to control others have no control over themselves.  A person who needs power and control, and will not stop until they get it, is usually someone who is deeply afraid of life. Fearful people can only have things their way. Not being in control scares them to death and they will take any action necessary to alleviate that fear.  

        Forgiveness is for you more than for the other person. You do not have to go back and be in that person’s life again, you simply have to let go of the anger and move forward.

There is an old saying that I simply love.. “Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” That sort of gives a new meaning to that now doesn’t it? But what is the true meaning of that statement? 
Some people believe that if they forgive a transgression, abuse or hatefulness, they are weak, accepting or owning the problem. In reality, it’s just the opposite. You do not have to return to that place, or allow the person back into your life. You don’t even have to speak your forgiveness out loud to them. You simply have to make the decision, in your mind and in your heart, to forgive. 

Forgiveness allows you to move past the hurt and let your heart heal. It will release you from the grip of the negativity, and the harmful effects of it. 

Don’t waste words on people who deserve silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing. 

I often find that silence is the one comeback that cannot be argued, and will generally resonate the loudest. A person who is used to confrontation, or some other type of response, will be knocked off guard when they do not receive that response. Sometimes that alone is enough to begin a cycle of change in the relationship. Sometimes it will take more than once.. but it might happen. And even if it doesn’t, you will be happier in the silence than you will ever be in the chaos. 

The only keeper of your happiness is you. Stop giving people the power to control your smile, your worth and your attitude.

No one can give you permission to be happy, except you. You can let the negativity eat you up and keep you living in a place of sadness and anger, or you can choose to be happy. Yes, it is a choice. Choose to see the good in any situation. When you are faced with adversity, find something to be grateful for.  Remember, the other person is usually facing demons we know nothing about.  Say a little prayer for them as you walk away, and always count your blessings!  

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

I Am - 2 Very Powerful Words

As I was working on my website this morning, and I thought about revising my page “About Me”, I wanted to give some very deep consideration to who I Am now compared to who I was when I first began this journey. Actually, I began my journey when I took my first breath, as I truly believe we choose the path we are on before we enter into this physical world. Perhaps our “I Am” changes throughout our life; or is it only our perception of “I Am” that changes as we move forward on our journey, as we get older, as we gain wisdom?

My thoughts then took me down another path of understanding, of how our “I Am” evolves. 

I have been fascinated with the triquetra for many, many years. It is a Celtic symbol representing the phases we as women go through in our lives. It’s the cycle of life, from Maiden, to Mother, and finally, if we are fortunate, to Crone. Further, it’s a symbol of past, present and future, waxing, full and waning moons, and earth, sea and sky. The triquetra is a circle with 3 interconnected loops, representing the circle of life in which we are all connected. 

Maiden ~ Mother ~ Crone
The Maiden is a young carefree girl experiencing all of the wonders of the world through the eyes of innocence. She is creativity, impatience, wonder and delight. The Maiden is the epitome of the saying “dance like no one is watching” but in fact she does not care if anyone is watching. She is free and wild and the spark that begins the journey. She will not be tamed, as there is much to be learned in this phase of her young life. 

 The Mother is the one who brings life, a nurturer, a caretaker. She is sexual energy, fertile and full of life. She is a protector, the guardian. As a mother, she is connected with, and a true force of nature. Like a magician, she is able to manifest the ideas and dreams of the maiden. Where the Maiden is wild in her dance, the Mother brings a flow and natural rhythm to the music. She is akin to a sail that brings the boat safely through the storm and back to the shore. 

In the old days, and as it should be today, the Crone was the most revered of the three. She is the one who has gained great wisdom and knowledge through her own experiences and life lessons. The Crone knows the dance is slowing, and she had earned the right to relax and enjoy the sunset. She is the wise woman who shares her knowledge with the Mother so that it can be passed down through the generations, as it was once passed down to her.  The Crone is also the one who entertains and encourages the wild and carefree nature of the Maiden, allowing her to be true to herself and experience all that nature and the world has to offer. She instills the belief that nothing is out of the Maiden’s reach, if she follows her heart and refuses the words of the naysayer, traveling happily along her own path. 

So as I begin revising my “About Me”  I will keep in mind the phases of my life thus far, the knowledge I have gained, and the idea that “I Am” has never really changed, it’s only grown and evolved as I have, and will most likely continue to do throughout the rest of my life.. at least I hope so.