Turning The Page in Your Book of Life

Sometimes you just have to turn the page to realize there is more to your book of life than the page you are stuck on. Stop being afraid to move on.

This is a common theme throughout a lot of my readings. The person I’m speaking with seems stuck. They want to move forward. They don’t know why they are stuck. The truth is, they are not looking forward, they are looking back, or are even simply standing still in the present. 

Sometimes the person says “well I burned the bridge…. I’m done, but…”  “Is there a chance that we will get back together?”  “Is there a chance that he/she will have a change of heart?”  And all of a sudden my reading will turn into a coaching session. 

Sometimes you just have to turn the page to realize there is more to your book of life than the page you are stuck on. Stop being afraid to move on. Great advice.. but how do you do that? What do you do when you want to move forward but you are stuck in the “Is there a chance” place? 

Often times I first point out the situation. You may have burned that bridge, but you didn’t turn away from the fire. You are like a moth and you’re allowing yourself to be drawn back in, watching and waiting for the flames to burn out. That will never serve you. You MUST turn around and walk away from the heat or you will continue to get burned.

My next question would be why. Why did you burn the bridge? What brought you to that decision? I believe its necessary to go within and really think about it, really get to the bottom of the decision. Go back to how you felt and what you were thinking when you made the decision to burn the bridge, and then take some time to be in that space. Feel it. Really feel the feelings that made you make that decision, even if it feels all yucky and awful. How did it make you feel? Name it, give it an image. And once you can clearly see it and define it, visualize yourself physically removing it from your life. Tear it up and chuck it into the flames as you walk away.

Then I might ask, “does that make sense”, and 9 times out of 10 I’ll get “yes, but…” 

The next thing I will address is fear. Fear of the unknown, or of being alone. “There is nothing or no one else out there. I have no options available to me.”  FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real or Fear Everything And Run. When you are in a state of fear nothing seems possible. But when you realize that it’s false evidence, then you can muster up a little courage to stick your head out the door. Once you take those first few steps, you begin to feel better and you can continue to move forward. "Face Everything And Rise". It’s work. We all are a work in progress, but you are worth it!

There are two quotes by Wayne Dyer that I LOVE! The first one is “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” And the second one is “You will see it when you believe it.” When you make a decision to face your fear, and believe you can walk forward into your future, you will begin to see how wonderful that future can be. 

Create a new goal of actively being positive. Read positive quotes, follow positive people. Watch positive and or funny shows. Replace the negative people and situations in your life with positive ones whenever possible. And learn to speak to yourself in a positive and supportive way. No one speaks to us more harshly than ourselves. Don’t allow negative talk from yourself or anyone else.

Every morning when you open your eyes say “Thank You, this is going to be an awesome day!” At the end of every day find something that you are grateful for and say “Thank You” when you close your eyes to sleep.  Even if you don’t think there is anything to be grateful for, there is. It may simply be something like {I made it through the day.} There is always, always something to be thankful for. 

And as I often tell my clients, if you don’t believe it, pretend. Fake it til you make it!

  

Once you start clearing the space where negativity and heartache live, you will find that happiness and new relationships are easier to move in. Its your time to make the space and take a chance on YOU!

p.s.. If you are interested in more information about Wayne Dyer, click on the above quotes for links to a couple of his books. He was my first (and current) favorite inspirational author / teacher / speaker. He is truly missed.